We’re turning a little orange with the carrot puree that we have for breakfast everyday and I hope it will become a habit. It’s convenient and refreshing since I also put in some apples and cucumbers, too. And most recently, the ostracized red bell pepper is also disguised in the puree.
I remember when I was living independently when meal times weren’t under the rigors of schedule. I would eat anytime, sometimes greatly, sometimes never, and the topmost priority is not nutrition but convenience.
Surprisingly, with convenience as the byword, I ate lean and healthy. As much as possible, food shouldn’t require cooking so I’d stock up on wheat bread and cheese, tomatoes and lettuce, spreads like bottled pesto, and fruits. The fruits – bananas, apples, cucumber, mango, whatever — I’d pop into the blender and that’s my lunch. Burp. I could also come home to an empty cupboard and it wouldn’t matter; Seven-eleven and Ministop are a stone’s throw away.
How I miss those times. The home was just for sleep. I hardly stayed in because there was so much to do, and so many friends calling on you, and so many strangers to meet or peruse.
There were the Salsa Nights on Wednesdays after work, poker on weekends, and our version of the MacLaren’s and Central Perk of TV where we’d hang out by default. If we were tired of our watering holes, we’d scour the city(s) for something special.
Friends were as restless, each clique with its own interests, and each clique overlapping with another, a network so tangled and festive and present. We didn’t know sleep, we didn’t know curfews on weeknights, but we didn’t know mediocrity at work either. We ran in heels, tight skirts and high collars.
The only responsibilities I had then were myself and my job. The opportunities were endless and the praises, addictive. But despite all that, I struggled with peace of mind. My mom had been living only with one companion, an aging help, in a gloomy house too big and stubborn for just two elderly women to maintain.
For almost twenty years as a widow, something she had never prepared for nor expected, she raised us, and became mother and father and provider especially to me. After all these, now is her time to be selfish and never alone.
And so, after so many prayers, I came home. I decided that my dreams could be put on hold because I will have so much time for those in the future, if God wills these.
These days, I am in the middle of my answered prayer. Sometimes when I look far into what could have been, I get sad and discouraged. But always, always, it is during these times when I can feel God most, standing in the middle, standing behind and ahead of us.
“Our wills are ours, we know not how;
Our wills are ours, to make them thine.”
– In Memoriam, Lord Alfred Tennyson
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